This thanksgiving we continued for the second year what has now become a tradition. Every year in an effort to make sure we don't go hungry my mom overcooks for thanksgiving. Remembering that thanksgiving is only 1 day, we know not to feast for the entire weekend. So that night we take our extra food to the city mission and get to know some members of our community we would other wise, sad but honest...looked the other way.
The native americans had a saying often translated as, "judge no man until you walk a mile in his moccasins." The Moccasin Mile drill isn't a cardio exercise, so you won't be walking a mile. But you will be putting yourself in another person's shoes for a while. How? by listening. REALLY listening. Here's how it works:
Engage in a converstation with a person you would not normally talk to, or who you think is boring, off-putting, or even a little scary
As you chat with this person, let him be in charge of the conversation.
Accept what the other person says without judging him. You won't critize or correct him at all; remember this doesn't mean you agree with him, only that you are allowing him to have an opinion or point of view that is different from your own, and you are trying to understand it.
Really listen to what the other person is saying.
Afterward, review how really listening made you feel and think.
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